🌾Jika Tanganmu Pendek, Maka Panjangkanlah Lisanmu🌾

🍂Syaikh Muhammad Shalih al-Munajjid hafizahullah berkata,

🌿“Jika tanganmu terlalu “pendek” untuk membalas kebaikan sahabatmu, maka “panjangkanlah lisanmu” dengan memperbanyak terima kasih dan mendo’akannya.”

🍃Jika engkau tidak memiliki apa-apa untuk membalas kebaikan saudaramu, maka mintalah kepada Allah Yang Maha Kaya untuk memberikannya kepada saudaramu itu.

🍁Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,

كَانَ يَقُولُ دَعْوَةُ الْمَرْءِ الْمُسْلِمِ لِأَخِيهِ بِظَهْرِ الْغَيْبِ مُسْتَجَابَةٌ

🌱“Doa seorang muslim untuk saudaranya sesama muslim dari kejauhan tanpa diketahui olehnya akan dikabulkan.

عِنْدَ رَأْسِهِ مَلَكٌ مُوَكَّلٌ كُلَّمَا دَعَا لِأَخِيهِ بِخَيْرٍ قَالَ الْمَلَكُ الْمُوَكَّلُ بِهِ آمِينَ وَلَكَ بِمِثْلٍ

🌴Di atas kepalanya ada malaikat yang telah diutus, dan setiap kali ia berdoa untuk kebaikan, maka malaikat yang diutus tersebut akan mengucapkan ‘Aamiin dan kamu juga akan mendapatkan seperti itu.” (HR. Muslim)

birthday letter to my better half

Dear abim sayang,

Today we get to celebrate a quarter century of life for the most wonderful person I know: you. Of course, I’ll do everything I can to celebrate you in a million little ways. (And you know that surprise-lovin’ me has several tricks up my sleeve.) But you know what makes me happy? That every day is a day worth celebrating with you. That you aren’t the showy, I expect everyone to celebrate me kind of guy. That you’re humble and kind and a million other things that all roll up into the awesome guy Allah created you to be. And that today, I’m writing for you.

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Today I’ll give you gifts, because you know that’s one way I show love. But the truth is, these gifts could never compare to the gift you’ve already given me: a life with you. The memories we’ve made together and the memories that are to come. The joy of road trips, sleepovers every night, unexpected dashes through downtown cities,, Super Sunday Football Match and Running Man watch parties, and just the opportunity to walk side by side through all our adventures. I couldn’t have chosen a better person to share life with, and I am so blessed that Allah chose you to be mine. Trust me, you’re a gift that my parents, and grandparents, and myself prayed for and prayed for, for basically all my life and all of yours. You’re the best gift I’ve ever been given.

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Today I am thankful for your parents. For your sweet mother who carried you, your father who raised you to be a man, and your loving grandmother who poured (and continues to pour) so much of her heart into you and into us. I’m thankful for those who have raised you and for those who came before that I never even knew.

Today I am thankful to be your wife. I’m thankful that you chose me, and that you continue to choose me daily, despite my imperfections and annoying habits. Thank you for loving me no matter how many times I wake you up to accompanying me to the bathroom at night or get cranky with you about laundry hahaha. Thank you for giving me the most beautiful picture of Allah-like love in the way you pursued me patiently and never gave up on me. And you never will give up.

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Thank you for putting up with me when I’m cranky and tired. Thank you for knowing when I need to take a break. Thank you for kissing me goodnight and good morning every day, even when I’m fast asleep. Thank you for always being game for something new, no matter how silly it seems. Thank you for acting like a huge nerd with me and being my best friend. Thank you for motivating me when I want to desperately give up. Thank you for encouraging me to be me.

I can’t wait to see all that Allah has in store for the next twenty five years, and for the next twenty five after that. I can’t wait to see what tomorrow brings, or the day after that, or the next day, because they’ll never be boring with you.

And you know what I really can’t wait for? I can’t wait to see what an amazing Daddy you’ll be someday. I can’t wait to see you love our future kiddos with the most wonderful, sincere, genuine, and passionate love- because that’s the kind of love you give to everyone you meet. I can’t believe that someday I’ll get to look down at a sweet newborn baby in my arms and know that Allah allowed the two of us to bring a new life into the world, a life that contains a little bit of you and me. I can’t wait for the days when my heart melts as I watch you crawl around with the kids on the floor or tuck them in. I just know that you will be the most incredible father.

I love your heart for Allah, the way you love others, and the way you pour all that you have into all that you do. I love the way you point me back towards Allah, challenge me, and comfort me all at the same time. I love your smile, your eyes, and hearing your voice when I wake up and when I go to sleep. When you talk, it makes my heart melt, and for a moment, nothing else matters. I love that I can be real with you, and you can totally be yourself with me (and we are both in fact super weird and total goofballs anyway haha). I love that you’ll wipe my tears, make me laugh, and make me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Because I am. You love me far better than I deserve to be loved. Thank you for always finding a way to make me smile.

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So let’s make the most of each moment today and everyday. Let’s not regret a single second. Let’s make these next twenty five years even better than the last, and let’s continue to walk the path the Lord has set out for us- hand in hand, laughing all the way. I’m excited for our adventures together, and I wouldn’t want to be going through this crazy life with anyone else. Happy birthday, love. May your day be just as amazing as you are.

Love,

Annisa

pernikahan

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== Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau harus mengeja a.. ba.. ta.. tsa agar kelak keluarga yang engkau bangun adalah keluarga yang dinaungi cahaya Al-quran.

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau harus berpayah-payah masuk ke dapur, lantas bersahabat dengan segala pernak-pernik didalamnya agar kelak engkau bisa memberikan nutrisi terbaik untuk mereka para penerus peradaban.

Pernikahan adalah tentang ilmu, tentang bagaimana engkau harus membolak-balik buku tentang psikologi lelaki dan perempuan, tentang perkembangan pada anak, tentang rumah tangga para Shahabiyah..

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau harus mengurangi konsumsi makanan dan minuman yang kurang sehat sekalipun engkau sangat ingin mengonsumsinya. Karena engkau tahu, engkau harus menyiapkan rahim yang kuat agar terlahir tujuh atau bahkan sepuluh para mujahid dan mujahidah.

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau harus menabung seperak demi seperak agar kelak engkau mampu memberikan nutrisi dan pendidikan terbaik untuk para pewaris kejayaan islam..

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau harus belajar melunturkan ego, agar perahu yang akan dibawa bersama kelak tak karam di tengah jalan.

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau menyembunyikan keluhan dan menutupi kelemahan, pada mereka yang yang perlu penguatanmu..

Itulah mengapa.. seorang Habibie membutuhkan ‘Ainun untuk menciptakan sebongkah pesawat terbang pertama di Indonesia, itulah mengapa Rasulullah membutuhkan Khadijah untuk mengemban amanah dakwah yang tidaklah mudah.. itulah mengapa dibalik lelaki yang hebat selalu ada perempuan yang kuat..

Pernikahan adalah tentang bagaimana engkau belajar untuk menjadi ibu, untuk menjadi istri, untuk menjadi menantu, untuk menjadi kakak ipar, untuk menjadi adik ipar, untuk menjadi sahabat, untuk menjadi….
Karena pernikahan adalah tak sekadar penyatuan dua insan, melainkan penyatuan dua keluarga besar .

Akhirnya…
dalam hening penuh kesyahduan.. mari bermunajat…
“Tenggelamkan hamba kedalam lautan cintaMu yaa Robb, agar tak ada cinta lain yang mengisi hatiku, kecuali menambah kecintaanku padaMu…”

Berhentilah kawan. Berhentilah untuk mengkorelasikan pernikahan dengan kegalauan. Berhentilah, saya mohon. Karena pernikahan (bagi saya) adalah tentang sebuah cita-cita agung yang harus kita siapkan sedari sekarang.

Berhentilah teman. Berhenti untuk menghubungkan pernikahan dengan kelabilan. Berhentilah, saya mohon. Karena jika saja engkau tahu, betapa bangganya orang-orang diluar sana dengan sistem pacarannya, lantas mengapa kita tak bangga dengan sistem pernikahan yang telah diatur dalam islam? Kenapa harus, justru kita lah (kaum muslim) yang ‘menjatuhkan’ makna pernikahan itu sendiri?==

mungkin hal ini akan membuat kita berulang kali berpikir, bahkan untuk sekedar memutuskan “ya (untuk sekarang) atau tidak” dalam masalah hati yang merah jambu,
ini bukan masalah “menunda-nunda”. boleh jadi, hal ini adalah masalah “mempersiapkan”. agar nantinya, ke-gegabahan emosional muda tak menghantarkan kita pada ‘sad ending’
agar nantinya, yang KEPUTUSAN SEKALI DALAM SEUMUR HIDUP ini kan benar-benar kita tuai keberkahannya karena segala hal-nya telah terceritrakan indah sesuai waktu dan alurnya.

ya, hanya itu sebenarnya.

I Chose To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife

A few weeks before my wedding, I chose to resign from my work. Then a friend asked me if I wanted to work for the government, to which I responded “no.” He asked, “Oh, so you want to go corporate?” I said, “not really.” “What do you want to be then?” he said. And I replied, “I want to be a housewife – a mother.”

And I was baffled (still am) about his response to my proud answer. His first response was “Seriously?” with that awful tone of disgust. And then he followed this up with possibly the worst question I have ever been asked, “You’ve graduated from one of the best university in Indonesia and you have so much potential. Don’t you want to contribute to society? ” And ever since that moment, I realized how mistaken and shallow people could be in the way they define and measure the intangibles of the world.

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A generation ago, being a homemaker was an unremarkable choice. Nobody batted an eye at a woman who chose to forgo a traditional career in favor of cooking and cleaning. Now? Not so much. I do feel judged sometimes. People think I sit around eating chocolates and watching soap operas all day hahaha. “You must get your nails done so much or you must have a plenty time to take care of yourself at salon/spa” they say. Staying at home when you still don’t have kids yet is so unusual, it’s almost scandalous hahaha (ironic laugh)

“What do you do?” has become the hardest question to answer. “I keep the home” is apparently not a valid response. “But what do you do?” people will say.

I do everything it takes to make a household run. On a typical day, I get up between 4-5, cooking for breakfast and make lunchbox for my husband, make the beds, and do a load of laundry and chores etc. Then I clean whatever room is on my schedule. After the cleaning is done, the laundry goes in the dryer, and I take an hour of me time — surfing the internet, reading blogs, returning e-mails, or responding to comments on my own blog. After lunch, I usually work on a home-improvement project, like putting up trim or coloring some doodles, baking or I run errands.

By 3 p.m., I’m thinking about dinner — what to make, what ingredients I want to use up. Dinner is on the table by 5:30. Instead of eating microwaved meals, My husband and I are eating saltless chicken cordon bleu with cheese sauce, homemade noodle, homemade siomay, pempek, stir fried vegetables, non preservatives food, salad, yoghurt, fruits etc. I am a natural picky-eater for sure, and i think since i married, me and my husband became healthier since we’re eating less processed junk and started to eat more vegetables and fruits. After dinner, My husband usually has to work from home, often he woke up at 1 or 2 a.m. Since I don’t have to be at an office the next day, sometimes I stay up with him (yeah sometimes :-p hahaha). We get to enjoy each other’s company instead of passing out at the end of the day because we haven’t had a moment’s downtime.

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Honestly, the transition from a ‘worker, and became a full time stay at home wife was not easy.  Sometimes  I found myself hopelessly bored to tears, watching way too much youtube video, and not knowing what I was supposed to be doing as a homemaker. Oh sure, I had the basics of cooking, cleaning, and keeping my husband happy, but the devil is in the details. When I realized I considered working out and going to the grocery store a busy day, I knew something had to change.

 So I decided to become my own inspiration.

 I started to learn how to bake professionally. I found that my ultimate goals as a a part of society is be able to have my own culinary business. I want to have a cakery and restaurant. I try to learn by myself how to decorate the cake, making a perfect cake etc.

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My favorite parts of being a housewife are being able to be my own boss and to set my own schedule. I don’t like feeling trapped by some else’s timetable.

Of course it is easy for me to know my own satisfaction with homemaking, as follows:

  1. I can set my own schedule and ‘work for’ the people i love most in the world.
  2. I get to sleep with my boss hahaha. Though I have never thought of my husband as myboss, I still found this to be hilarious. As far as I am concerned, he is sleeping with the boss, not me! Hahahaha
  3. Being there for the kids (aaminn) and watching them grow up.
  4. Being able to have time to do the things i really love to do and not be restrained by other people’s schedule.
  5. I like the flexibility and the lack of stress, too. Not that things aren’t stressful with the-homemaking-things, but it’s not the kind of stress I experienced when I worked outside my home. One thing I’ve noticed lately, since i still not pregnant yet, is that everyone is asking me if I’m going BACK to work. I know they mean well and are trying to be polite, but I feel like responding, “What do you think I’ve been doing for the last five months? Sitting on my you-know-what?” I never worked as hard in my life until I became a housewife and homemaker haha
  6. I love to be at able to make a welcoming haven for my husband and future children! And an inviting place to practice hospitality! Home cooked meals, clean clothes, a pretty and tidy house, all contribute to a sense of peace and a desire to be there (at home), and in this busy world I think that’s what our families need.
  7. I NEVER DREAD MONDAYS ANYMORE! Haha
  8. Being able to take my husband an ideal fashion (p.s: his sense of fashion is so-‘ugh’ btw haha), dinner when he walks in the door etc.
  9. Being blessed to always be concentrating on family.

I think I also believe that homemakers have a job potential that few other professions offer: we can pursue a seemingly unlimited number of interests, all that can really benefit our families and homes. For example: gourmet chef, nutritionist, seamstress, interior designer, artist, florist, landscaper, gardener, farmer, milk maid, cake decorator, baker, nurse, hairstylist, carpenter, plumber, master cleaner, etc., etc.  Some or many of these skills and interests are also marketable, either from home or at some point in the future if outside work is desired or needed.

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Everything about being a modern homemaker is amazing. It;s been my dream since i was little and it finally come true. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to an office job. If I get bored, maybe I’ll take on a part-time job or volunteer. I hope in the future we’ll have kids (aamiin), and I’ll be a stay-at-home mom, a role people seem to understand more easily. For now, me and my husband are  happy with this setup. We spend time together and are both doing what we love. And believe it or not, I haven’t had my nails done and go to spa in five months. Hahaha

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Don’t get me wrong; I am in no way invalidating the value of the-working-mom/wife to society. My best friends is a working mom too and i adore her. What I’m saying is that it seems that what people have failed to realize is that to be able to truly contribute something of significance to society, one must first become a genuinely good person capable of thinking beyond himself. And that’s what we don’t have enough of – genuinely good people.

And if being ‘just’ a housewife and homemaker allows me to help raise and develop at least one good person that the world is in dire need of, then I’m looking forward to the day society frowns upon me for being ‘just’ a housewife and homemaker hehehe.

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:)

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Our ordinary love may not be the stuff of romance novels or fairy tales, but every day that ends with me exhausted but curled up next to you, my cold feet pressed against yours, my head on your chest and your arm draped over my side, is a happy ending in my book.
I love you today and every day, my abimisyulalalacikimuy 🙂

overwhelmed

You’re overwhelmed. Too much to do. Too much to understand and too much to implement. You’re confused. Too much noise. Too many choices and too many voices. You’re stuck and you feel that the entire world is racing and being. Where do you go from here. How do you get to over there. When do you start. How do you begin. Why are you still stuck.

You’re overwhelmed: make a list of what you need to do. There’s too much? simplify the list by prioritizing. Too much to understand, execute a plan of how. Too much to implement, start with one task.

You’re confused: write down your thoughts, or draw or paint or exercise. Too much noise, figure out your focus points. What matters. Too many choices, just make one. Too many voices, silence them all.

You’re stuck: ask questions. Where are you – where do you want to be & how do you want to get there. Why do you no longer want to be where you are? Question your heart and soul.

The best way for you to get to where you want to be is to begin with what you have wherever you are. You’re not racing with anyone but yourself. You’re not competing with anyone but yourself. So who are you doing this for if not yourself.

yes, i’m still alive (alhamdulillah)

Assalamualaikum wr wb

Hey readers! Rasanya udah lamaaaaaaaaa banget saya enggak nulis di blog ini. Bahkan postingan terakhir pun hasil copas dari facebook, bukan tulisan sendiri hahaha. Maafkan saya yang males ini ya. Sejak berubah status jadi istri orang dan pindah ke Sangatta, rasanya kok males banget buka laptop dan ngeblog lagi. Bawaannya pengen main masak-masakan melulu di dapur dan beres-beres rumah hehehe :p (*pencitraan to the max-est max wkwk)

Setelah kurang lebih 4 bulan tinggal di Sangatta, akhirnya niat untuk ngeblog muncul lagi hehehe. InsyaAllah dalam dua minggu ini saya mau posting cerita tentang repot dan serunya mempersiapkan pernikahan, cerita kehidupan baru saya sebagai istri dan ibu rumah tangga, tips bagaimana cara menghadapi  post-power-syndrome pasca resign dari kantor dan pindah ke kota kecil ikut suami, suka dukanya tinggal di Sangatta dan cerita perjalanan honeymoon kedua saya suami hehehe.

Soooo, yang sabar yah  (siape elu annisaaaaa wkwkwk)

see you on the next post, my dearest readers 🙂

XOXO

wassalamualikum wr wb